I want to share a powerful idea with you. And it's very simple.
It goes like this: Stop trying to feel better.
Once I realized that—my life changed. Like the total necessity of looking to your own inner wisdom and instincts, rather than looking for a solution in the external environment.
The problem is this: Most of us know what we should do.
There’s a contradiction with the self-improvement inspiration and it is this: the ultimate goal of all self-improvement is to reach the point where you no longer feel the need to improve yourself.
Think about it: The whole goal of improving your productivity is to reach the point where you never have to think about how to be more productive. The whole point of pursuing happiness is to reach the point where one no longer has to think about being happy.
Self-improvement is therefore, in an odd way, ultimately self-defeating.
It’s funny; a lot of people who travel to the third-world claim that people are “happier” there. They often follow it up with some trite testimonial about materialism and how we’d all be so much better-off if we learn to live with less. This might be a fallacy. Poor people in developing cultures aren’t happier; they’re just less worried and less stressed out.
Everyone wants to feel good and live an untroubled, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have great sex and relationships, to look great and make lots of cash and be admired and respected and a total badass to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room.
Everyone would like that — it’s easy to like that.
What is the Difference Between Counseling and Life Coaching?
Coaching and therapy are different in many ways and it’s important to draw a clear line between them.
I sometimes humorously label the voices in our head as "internal terrorists" who sabotage all of your best efforts. Unfortunately, you can't go in and arrest the "terrorist" because it's a part of you that needs to be developed, trained and integrated rather than destroyed.
And start listening to the still, small voice of success—which lives inside all of us.
Why are we so frequently prone to do the things that are least important but so unwilling to do the important things that success and happiness require? What is the voice that whispers to us: Just let it all go. Why worry about all that self-awareness baloney? It is the voice of negativity, a voice that has grown gradually controlling and stronger over the years as a result of being around the wrong people, thinking the wrong thoughts, adopting the wrong philosophy and making the wrong decisions.
Beyond a doubt the most universal challenge for keeping up a healthy diet is giving up food addictions. If you could escape from your cravings, healthy habits would take over and your new lifestyle would become a breeze. Wouldn't that be nice?
Easier said than done. Stimulating foods are among the most addictive pleasures on earth. Your brain is wired to seek out high-calorie energy sources like sugars and fats (especially the bad fats).